Here are 10 of the best tips for you to be successful on your first date. Remember this list if you want things to go well.
Be positive, upbeat and optimistic when planning your date and try to convey that to your potential partner, that this is important to you and that it could be a life changer for you. Don’t be pessimistic or downhearted that it’s not going to work or that you’re not going into it positively and wholeheartedly – it’s impressive to have that attitude and belief and counts for a lot.
Look your best if you can, wear something you feel good in and that suits you. Also very importantly smell nice to show you have made an effort for the person you are meeting.
Consider your potential partners views on where to go and try to ensure that the transport arrangements are fine for them getting there. It’s no good choosing somewhere really nice but that will be very difficult for them to find or get to. Being late is not a formula for success for either of you.
Many ladies, particularly older age groups still like and expect the man or potential partner to make the running in terms of organising the date, if appropriate booking a table, meeting in a prominent but public place and then escorting them into the venue. Some ladies may not want or expect that but be chivalrous guys and at least offer.
Do be clear on who is paying for what prior to meeting. Often the etiquette on a first date is to ‘Go Dutch’ and share the costs but some men may want to show their chivalrous nature at the end of the date and pick up the tab, particularly if it’s going well and there are signs that you are going to meet again. But whatever was planned please be prepared to stick to your side of the bargain.
Do show politeness and consideration at all times for your date. Ask them if they feel comfortable in the venue and at your particular table. Offer to change it if there is any hint of a problem or dissatisfaction.
Do be careful If you are in a restaurant or licensed premises and alcohol is going to feature. Nerves might kick in and very quickly you could be in a situation where drink has flowed too freely. If you are both doing that it might be acceptable but if one is drinking and the other isn’t it could become a problem. So if in any doubt, it might be better to abstain.
Do be observant, attentive and aware of how things are going and look for signs of any sort of problem – if in doubt ask ‘Is everything OK so far and do you feel comfortable with our date’? The aim has to be for you both to enjoy it and want more of the same.
Do stick to your timings and what has been planned in advance. If things are going well being impromptu can be good, but it’s best to make sure you are both on the same page before changing an agreement. Leaving them wanting more of your company on a future occasion is often a winning strategy.
Do offer to walk together to your transport home but don’t push this if your partner isn’t comfortable and be very clear on this. Things can begin to unravel if there is any ambiguity or alcohol begins to come into play. A further date is a better outcome than creating any level of discomfort or spoiling things.
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